Put your foot down…say “No” to “No”

Beliefs: some good, some not-so-good

Beliefs intertwine with perceptions and patterns in your brain. Then beliefs manifest their influence, acting as your ‘internal filters’. These filters guide your view of the world. These filters guide your behaviour. Your beliefs become deeply held in your subconscious mind. From that strong base, your beliefs generate your habits…some good, some bad. Your beliefs determine your appetite for new things, your attitude toward change, and your ability to replace bad habits with good habits.

Do you know the true nature and depths of your beliefs?

Have you taken the time to ‘dig deep’ and understand your most-powerful beliefs?

These beliefs, your strong-and-deeply-rooted beliefs, govern your life: deep beliefs are the roots of your greatest joys; deep beliefs are the roots of your darkest fears.

Your deepest and most-strongly-held beliefs aid your efforts toward certain goals while they resist your efforts toward other goals. In these ways, your beliefs are fundamental to your life. They are fundamental to how you feel during your life and they are fundamental to whether or not you achieve the success you desire.

Where did your beliefs come from?

When it comes to questions like this, all of us are students. None of us know with certainty why or how we have beliefs. Yet, certain things make sense to us. As examples:

  • We perceive things and our perceptions of those things map into our brains,
  • Our brains file vast amounts of information in memory, for future reference.
  • Our brains like to simplify our lives, so they sort things into patterns/concepts.
  • With repetition bits and pieces of information solidify into bigger pieces and then into patterns.
  • Diversity of perceptions expand and complicate perceptions, building a hierarchy of sorted/related patterns [and concepts]

An illustration…

When we are infants we hear our parents say the word “No”. That’s an audio perception. As our parents repeat the word “No” we learn “No” is an important part of our lives. Simple repetition of that spoken word causes neurons in our brains to construct deeper “No” pathways. Recognizing the importance of “No”, our infant brains begin to build a “No” pattern. Our infant brains quickly pick up diverse perceptions that will feed into the “No” pattern. A parent may show an angry face while saying the word “No”. The visual body language signal and the verbal sound signal send two separate messages, both of which feed into the growing “No” pattern in our infant brains. We notice/perceive that different situations precede our parents’ “No” messages. We perceive more diversity, more repetition and the “No” pattern becomes stronger, deeper, and more-nuanced. Even as infants we have an extremely broad and deep understanding of the word “No”. We recognize its sound, we recognize what it looks like when it is written, we recognize the facial expressions and the various forms of body language that accompany the word “No”, and we know the word “No” is expressed to us as a result of a wide range of different situations.

We learn our parents are not the only ones who deliver “No” messages to us. Other family members, to varying degrees, deliver “No” messages. We meet neighbours who have little people of their own and both those neighbours and the toddlers they bring into our lives add more “No” to our perceptions.

Why all this discussion around the word “No”?

That question begs the questions…

Do you understand how the pattern/concept “No” has fed negatives into your belief system?

Do you understand the extent the pattern/concept “No” throttles your efforts toward your desired goals & success?

Do you understand how to go about repairing the damage the word “No” has done to your belief system?

Are you willing to try to find out?

Together our conversations can expand solutions and value

We look forward to helping you bring your ideas and solutions to life.
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